Miss Manners on Backhanded Compliments at High School Reunion

At a recent high school reunion, a reader received a backhanded compliment from a former classmate. The classmate said, “Gee, you look a lot better than you did in high school.”

Though it sounds like a compliment, the remark implies a subtle insult about the reader’s past appearance. Miss Manners explains that such comments can be hurtful despite their polite tone.

She advises recognizing these remarks for what they are and responding with grace. Ignoring or deflecting the comment can prevent unnecessary tension.

Miss Manners encourages focusing on positive interactions during reunions and not letting backhanded compliments spoil the experience.